Wednesday, May 20, 2026

Arrival in Assisi


Asher Kaufman, at 18, set out on June 28 for a yearlong trip to help spread the Children's Rosary in Europe and Africa. He spent the months of July, August and the first two weeks in September in France. He arrived in Uganda on September 15. From Uganda he traveled by car to Rwanda on September 28. After a week in Rwanda there was once more a return for more travel in Uganda. On October 11 he arrived in Tanzania and on October 26 traveled to Kenya. A visit for three weeks to Madagascar followed on November 7 and then South Africa. He spent several weeks in Cameroon and then the Democratic Republic of the Congo (DRC). Angola, South Africa and Mozambique followed. There was a relatively short journey through Botswana, Namibia and Lesotho. This dispatch chronicles his departure from South Africa a short visit to Paris and arrival in Assisi, Italy. 

As I sat at Johannesburg O.R. Tambo airport and awaited the start of the boarding process at the gate, I reflected on my time in Africa which had lasted for nearly six months. I had been to eastern, central, and southern Africa. I had spent more time in this continent than I have in any other excepting my own. It had been a beautiful and adventurous experience, one I was profoundly grateful for. I had spent time in small villages and cities; in mountains and plains; in deserts and forests; in parishes and schools.

When I first embarked on this African trip from Paris back in September, I did not even know the full scope of the countries that I would be visiting. That is to say, many of the countries simply were added along the way. For instance, I did not know I would be going to Mozambique until a few weeks before I arrived there. Obtaining visas and figuring out transport had not always been easy, but with my guardian angel’s help, I managed. Going to many countries in Africa gives you an experience that is a bit difficult to understand until once you are actually there yourself. Many things one hears about from afar: the safaris, the villages, the colorful clothing and intricate dancing. Many other things serve as ready deterrents for anyone actually planning a trip: the malaria, the inadequate road infrastructure, the lack of public transit (in some places), the poverty, the wildlife, healthcare services. And as you might expect, the true experience lies somewhere in the middle. It is true that the pace of life, the diet, the ways of getting around are all things that require getting used to. However, it is also the case that none of these will impede anyone’s having a memorable and very authentic experience. Meeting real people, staying with them, eating at their table, visiting their churches and communities were all some of my favorite parts, and of course none of those involve simply following a guidebook and staying at a hotel. In fact, I only spent a half of one day on safari during those six months (it was at Queen Elizabeth Park in Uganda). When Fr. Cleophus in Kenya remarked on how it was such a pity that we would not be visiting the Tsavo Park on this visit of mine, I remarked that I had come to see children, not animals.

“Good evening, ladies and gentleman. We will now begin the boarding process,” came the voice over the loudspeaker. We queued up, boarded, were seated, took off, and watched as Africa slid away into the impenetrable darkness below.

About eleven and a half hours later, the plane coasted to a smooth landing at Charles de Gaulle International Airport in Paris. I deplaned, went through passport control (which has now become completely automated for visa-free passports) and collected my bags. In the process of trying to find the proper exit for the rideshare rides, I ran into more than one person who ended up asking me for directions on where to go. The Paris airport is actually one where one needs to be careful because it is easier than one may think to get baited by some seemingly helpful gentleman into being taken to a less-frequented area of the airport where you are offered a ride for wildly above the government-fixed taxi fare to downtown. There is a well-organized gang that operates this racket. They have baiters to ask people if they need a taxi and then pretend to take them to one, drivers who pose as the taxi drivers, and lookouts who keep their eyes peeled for airport police or security agents so that the men can scatter at the first sign of trouble. They depend on your being disoriented from a long flight, not knowing the local language (i.e., just speaking English), and failing to notice the signage around you. The first time I was in the Paris with my mother at the airport I was led by one of these baiters down onto a different floor entirely to a parking lot completely devoid of people where he left me with a driver who told us the ride would cost €150. In fact, the government fixes the price of taxis at €56 or €65 from CDG to downtown, depending on which side of the river you are going to. A Parisian taxi driver I talked to described the men I spoke of above as the “mafia” and said they could even become dangerous. One way to know the difference between a legitimate taxi and a fake one, the taxi driver told me, is that a real taxi driver will never approach you and ask you if you want a ride.

“It’s bad taste,” he said. Anywhere else, I would have dismissed that as violating the capitalist principle of going after the profit, but in a place like France with its book length set of society manners, I can believe it.

Not wanting to fall in with any of these men, however, I booked an Uber from my phone. Nevertheless, I still managed to end up on the wrong floor (through my own fault, though). Thankfully, the Uber driver was kind enough to wait the three minutes needed for me to charge down the stairs to the correct floor.

Soon I was on my way. The driver and I made some small talk along the way; he was not originally an Uber driver, having only done the job for four months. His real job, he told me, was working for a company that produced plane meals. Skychefs or GateGourmet, I don’t remember which.

When we pulled up in front of the parish, I called Fr. Duloisy.

“Hello, Asher,” he said.

“Hello, Father,” I replied in French. “I’ve just arrived.”

“Why, then, Asher, just come in. You know the code,” he responded as though I had only just returned from a quick walk to the bakery for some croissants and coffee.

It was true. I did know the code and somehow had not forgotten it in all the months that had passed since my last visit. As I came down the steps into the presbytery (yes, it is down the steps and not up; it’s a strange 1960s construction), I really did feel almost as though no time had gone by since my days at the Foyer Jean Bosco when I would commute down to the parish to serve Masses on the weekends. The same group of tourists languidly awaiting in disorderly fashion in front of the church the arrival of their tour guide. The same traffic noisily traversing the traffic circle in front of the house. The same crisp early morning air that I grew to love about Paris. I breathed a deep breath of satisfaction. I was, if not exactly home, at least on familiar ground.

Fr. Duloisy brought me back to reality.

“Will you serve the Mass?” he asked.

I looked at my watch. The 9:00 a.m. Mass was in about twenty minutes. I had not showered or changed, but at least I was wearing a collared shirt and slacks. At Mass, I saw the old Saturday morning regulars I had known, still strong in their daily Mass attendance.

Afterward, after doing some bush trimming (Fr. Duloisy never shies away from the necessary tasks for the parish), he showed me around some of the newer improvements he had brought about in the parish, including redoing the flooring on the altar in the lower sanctuary, which eliminated the tripping hazards that had almost caused me to fall forward headlong with the tall, silver processional Cross on one Sunday when I served Mass during my last stay. I reminded Fr. Duloisy of this event, which he himself had not forgotten.

That evening, there was the Saturday night Mass. Just before this Mass, I saw Alain, a good friend of Fr. Duloisy’s and also a friend of mine that I had gotten to know well during my last visit. He is a renowned singer who has performed all over the world for a French cultural institute.

The three of us went out to visit a parishioner who had invited us over to see his house in the Bois de Boulogne, a very exclusive and wealthy enclave just west of Paris. This parishioner had an out-of-the-way, unassuming house on a small side street dinner at a quiet restaurant in the seventeenth arrondissement not far from the church. The seventeenth is not much of a tourist area, despite its proximity to the Arc de Triomphe, but it is one of my favorite areas of Paris due to its elegant Haussmanian architecture, charming restaurants, and intimate neighborhood feel. Unlike Montmartre, which is busting at the seams with foreign tourists, the seventeenth is a real Parisian neighborhood, and you can feel it.

The parishioner we went to visit was an artist and had a formidable collection of art that only he knows how he managed to obtain. It included works from his grandfather, small statues from more than one famous sculptor, and paintings that were from the fifteenth and sixteenth centuries. In the center of the house (which was itself of a wonderfully charming nineteenth century style) was a small courtyard with potted plants that was completely shielded from the street. Really a delightful house.

For dinner, Fr. Duloisy, Alain, and I went to a local restaurant where we had our reunion dinner. It was wonderfully spent, even though Alain had the misfortune to have some meat juice spilled on his evening jacket by a waitress.

The next morning, after an early breakfast, I set off for Assisi where my Italian classes were set to begin the following day. Alain was kind enough to drive me to the airport.

Upon arriving, I was quite literally shocked by the stringent weight and size control measures Air France (of all airlines!) had put in place to make sure no one was bringing anything remotely overweight or oversized on the plane. All of my carry-on luggage had to be under 12 kg, I found out (after I had already sent my very underweight checked bags through). Every passenger had to put his bags on a scale and fit them in a box to make sure they were the right size. After seeing my bag ring up at over 14 kg, I was sent back to the check-in desk where I was told I needed to have the bag checked for 80 euros. Beginning to feel like I was being robbed in broad daylight with my eyes wide open, I decided to see do what I could to avoid this hefty fee. After combing through the bag for anything I could possibly jettison and cramming everything I could in the various pockets of my cargo pants, I was helped by the very nice employees who let me through with a bag that still was most of the way to 13 kg. After passing through the security line, I proceeded to put everything in my pockets back in my bag.

Otherwise, my travel went smoothly. The flight was on time and proceeded without a hitch. At the Florence airport, I was able to easily board the tram that went directly to the Santa Maria Novella train station where I boarded a train bound for Foligno with a stop at Assisi.


That evening, I arrived at the Casa Papa Giovanni, the guesthouse where I am staying for the entire month of May while I take Italian courses here. It was a relief to arrive at this comfortable, centrally located, welcoming place after a couple of long days of travel. I met a very nice young Australian man at dinner, and after dinner he invited me to take a walk with him through the town, where preparations for a medieval festival called the Calendimaggio were in the fever pitch of preparation. I’ll explain more about the Calendimaggio later.

After getting a very good night of sleep, the next morning, it was time for my first Italian lesson. I was actually quite excited to begin formally learning a language I had long admired from a distance, so to speak. The instruction, even for us beginners, was from the first moments, completely in Italian. The teachers made it known that they would not be willing to use English at all in their classes, even if just for translation purposes (e.g. “What’s ‘cup’ in Italian?”). Instead they we were obliged to stumble about with these strange new words, often resorting to a kind of clumsy sign language, or some badly disguised Spanish. But within a couple of days the wisdom of their approach began to show itself.
Without recourse to an English crutch, our minds began to latch on to some Italian phrases, especially those needed for inquiring after more. We had to rely on our rapidly increasing Italian vocabulary to make our way through the lessons, and the whole experience felt rather like a stranded sailor who, after much flailing and useless kicking, finally begins to grasp about the edges of the rocks and then, slowly but surely, hauls himself up onto dry land.

Learning a language is really not a very linear process, and there are often days that feel very good and others (like when one is sick) when the last thing you want to do is fight your way through the unbroken snowdrift of an unfamiliar language with its foreign pronunciation. Some words or concepts only require one lesson and stick immediately while others require many reiterations and mistakes before they begin to stick, but in the end, seeing yourself go from a clueless babe to a conversant participant in a language is such a beautiful experience, it is hard to compare it to any other. One realizes that one has not only unlocked random workbook sentences and phrases but a whole world of places and books. It is enchanting, really, and often you will find yourself wanting to read a book in this foreign language, no matter its subject, for no other reason than the sheer enjoyment of reading and understanding thoughts and sentences in words and syntax other than your own. I have often felt that it is rather like what one would feel like if one were to open a trap door and enter another world, full of its own places and people, all different from our own.

But I’m getting ahead of myself. Of course, as I said, before the euphoria comes many days and weeks and often months and years of arduous toil in the desert of workbook sentences and phrases, verb conjugations, vocabulary memorization, and all the other banal tasks involved with taking on a new language.

This indeed was the work to which I was now consigned to spend a month engaged. There were only three of us starting the course on the same day, and we were all beginners. One of my classmates is a Tanzanian nun named Sr. Agnes, and the other is an Irish scholar named Catherine.

Having been signed up for the super intensive course, I had afternoon one-on-one lessons in addition to the morning classes with the others. One day a week I was given with no afternoon lesson so that I might have some free time to walk about and explore.


One of the great benefits of taking classes while being here is that the entire surroundings serve as a classroom. When one steps foot into town, reads a history plaque, orders food in a restaurant, attends a Mass, converses with strangers, reads a book in the guesthouse library, it is constant immersion in Italian.

Being in Assisi is also a wonderful place for exposure on history and beautiful architecture, so I have found it to be a very pleasing place to be for a month while one is learning Italian. My different discoveries around town and in the region will be the subject of my next dispatch.

To see all of Asher's dispatches from his journey click HERE


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